Table Etiquette for Our Role Playing Games

In general, we plan to run our games with “the rule of cool” rule basis. Keep it nice, civil, & friendly. If you have a question, ask. Here’s some specific rules to be aware of:

Everyone is Welcome

All members of the game, players, DMs, and otherwise, are expected to respect the other members and players, and all people are welcomed here. This includes treating each other with respect regarding race, age, sexuality, gender, religion (or lack thereof), and other physiological or ideological characteristics/beliefs. Every person is entitled to this respect.

Call and address every person & their characters by the name and pronouns they’ve given you.

Share the Stage

Help make sure that everyone, even a new or shy player, has the opportunity to shine in the game.  It is expected that all players give others a chance to speak, not interrupting them, discouraging them from talking, or from participating.  Keep distracting or off topic interruptions to a minimum.  Do not engage in inappropriate content, mean-spirited insults, forcefully telling others how they should play or act, or other intentional behavior that is hurtful. 

If you are asked to stop a behavior, stop immediately.  Refusing to do so will result in being removed from the game.

Since this game will include collaborative storytelling, be ready to contribute to building the world, story, or NPCs and to respond positively to the contributions and improvisations of other players.  

This is a Yes, And... style game.

Safety Tools

The GM will periodically check in with the table about how the game is going and how interactions are feeling to each player. Players can express concerns at those times. Additionally, players can use the 3X5 cards on the table to write a note to the GM in the moment for a more subtle way to alert your GM to a concern or problem.

While the rating for most of our games is Mature, gender or racially based violence on the part of players will not be tolerated.  Formal consent is required for interactions beyond flirting.   Foul language is allowed, but it should be kept to a minimum and be respectful of all participants in game.  Game specific cursing is admired.

There is zero tolerance for harassment here, consider this your only warning if you are found violating this rule.

Rulings & Disagreements

There will be times when a player may disagree with another player or the GM about how something is supposed to be done or the way things are handled. In those situations, the GM has the right to make a judgment call. If you disagree with the call, you can speak to the GM about it later, out of game. We recognize that mistakes happen, but it’s usually better to have fun than deliberate over the rules, especially during the time constraints of a One Shot. 

Adapted, with permission, from Dungeons With Dragons Blog

Table Etiquette Questions Answered

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What should I do if I don't understand the rules?

We love new players here and we will be happy to explain anything you don't understand. You can ask all the questions you need and we'll walk you through it.

For Convention games, we also provide helpful game cards so you know what your spells, weapons and other advantages do for you mechanically.

How do we handle conflicts during game play?

First of all, players can signal that they are uncomfortable about something happening in the game by raising their yellow or red sticks. Your GM will check in and see what you need in that moment. Second, if there is a disagreement between players, the GM can moderate and help find a satisfying narrative solution. Finally, if the disagreement is with how the GM is using mechanics or running the game, you can always offer your perspective after the game, but during play, the GM gets to make the final call.

Is it okay to munch on snacks while we play?

Yes Please! Nothing important should happen without food!

Do I need to dress up for themed games?

Some of our GM's are costumers, LARP players or dramatically inclined so you might see thematic costumes, stylish outfits or fancy hats at the table. Players are welcome to wear what makes them feel comfortable and confident. We love to see you in your creations, so costumes are welcome but never required!

What's the best way to respect everyone at the table?

Be open to people and ways of life different from what you know. Instead of asking, "Is this true?" consider asking yourself "How can this be true for this person.?" You should also use the names and pronouns that have been shared with you and avoid disparaging comments, insults, put downs, or telling other players how to play.

Listen actively so you can build on the ideas of others, share the spotlight so everyone has a chance to shine, and avoid personal attacks completely. Everyone comes to the table with their own hopes and gifts and we strive to create a place where people can share in telling the story collaboratively. Treating everyone with kindness and respect helps create an a safe and inclusive table.

What if I want to leave a game partway through?

Life happens, and not every game is a good fit for every player. If something comes up or the game isn't working for you, let your GM know and go on your way with our sincere good will.

Can I bring my own scenario or character to the table?

This depends on the type of event you are doing with us! If you are attending a Con where we are hosting a one shot, characters and the scenario will already be provided. If you are taking a workshop on learning how run a Collaborative Style game or create safe and inclusive gaming spaces, yes, bring all your creative ideas!